Don't put them through that either. Yes; I suppose if each of us believe the other is brainwashed, iw going to be major problems later on.
And the longer you see her you won't be getting out of anything soon either. She is instructed to have children within wedlock very soon, raise these children in a Mormon home, and devote hours each week to church activities plus Sabbath observance on Sunday.
Interestingly, my parents felt the same way about him.