She has to come to the realization that the church may not be infallible, it can't be forced on her or proven to her.
You will join the catholic. No where did I say, nor I think indicate, that I thought this wasn't a complex issue, or that this girl is a caricature. If it's the speed then you may need to be more direct and take initiative. I have been looking for a support group on facebook but couldn't find one so I have created one.dating